The Rise of Unrealistic Weddings: How Influencers Are Stealing the Joy
There was a time when weddings were about love, family, and the messy, beautiful reality of two people promising forever. Today, too many weddings feel less like celebrations and more like productions—scripted, styled, and staged for the algorithm.
Social media influencers have reshaped the wedding landscape, and not always for the better. Their curated feeds of flawless gowns, cinematic drone shots, and tablescapes dripping in florals have created a culture of unrealistic expectations. Couples are no longer planning weddings for themselves; they’re planning for the audience.
The Algorithm as A Wedding Planner
Platforms like Instagram and TikTok have quietly replaced the traditional wedding binder. Couples no longer flip through magazines or meet with planners to dream up their day—they scroll. And scroll. And scroll. Each swipe delivers another glossy reel of a “perfect” wedding: the bride stepping out of a couture gown, the groom framed against a backdrop of fireworks, the tablescape dripping in orchids and crystal.
But what looks effortless on screen is anything but. Behind every viral wedding clip is a battalion of stylists, florists, planners, lighting technicians, videographers, and makeup artists, all choreographing a production designed to appear spontaneous. The illusion is seductive: it whispers that this level of perfection is attainable, even normal.
The truth? These weddings often carry price tags that rival a down payment on a house. They are not casual celebrations; they are staged spectacles, engineered for virality. And yet, couples watching from their phones absorb these images as benchmarks, not outliers.
The Pressure to Perform
The fallout is predictable. Couples begin to measure their own plans against the influencer ideal. Suddenly, a simple ceremony feels inadequate without a drone shot. A heartfelt toast feels flat compared to a choreographed TikTok dance. The desire to replicate these viral moments pushes budgets to breaking points, strains relationships, and shifts the focus from love to logistics.
Instead of asking “What feels true to us?” couples ask “Will this look good online?” The wedding becomes less about joy and more about optics—less about intimacy and more about performance.
The Cost of Chasing Perfection
This cycle of comparison erodes the very heart of weddings. What should be a deeply personal celebration becomes a public performance, curated for likes rather than lived for love. Couples lose sight of the fact that the most meaningful moments—the shaky voice during vows, the spontaneous laughter, the imperfect dance steps—are the ones that can’t be staged, edited, or filtered.
The irony is painful: in chasing perfection, couples often sacrifice the very joy that makes a wedding unforgettable.
Reclaiming Weddings from the Algorithm
It’s time to push back. A wedding is not a content strategy—it’s a human story. Couples should feel empowered to:
• Redefine success: A wedding’s worth lies in the experience, not its online reception.
• Prioritize meaning over optics: Choose details that reflect your story, not just what photographs well.
• Celebrate imperfection: The laughter, the tears, the unplanned moments—these are the memories that last.
• Limit the scroll: Use social media for inspiration, but filter ideas through your own values and vision.
Reclaiming the Narrative - A Call to Couples
Influencers may dominate the feeds, but they don’t own the narrative. The most powerful weddings aren’t the ones that go viral; they’re the ones that feel real. They’re the ones where the bride’s mascara runs during vows, where the groom forgets his lines and everyone laughs, where grandparents dance like teenagers, and where the photos capture not perfection but truth.
Strip away the pressure. Silence the comparisons. Reclaim the joy. Because the essence of a wedding has never been about staging—it has always been about belonging. It’s about the people who show up, the promises whispered, the community built around two lives intertwining.
Social media will always chase the spectacular, but love thrives in the ordinary. The quiet hand squeeze before walking down the aisle. The messy cake cutting. The unplanned speeches that wobble between tears and laughter. These are the moments that endure long after the hashtags fade.
At the end of the day, a wedding isn’t about likes—it’s about love. And love doesn’t need filters, drones, or choreographed dances to be extraordinary. It needs presence. It needs honesty. It needs joy.
So let the influencers keep their feeds. Let them curate perfection. Couples everywhere deserve something richer: a wedding that feels like them. A wedding that may never trend, but will always matter.
Your wedding isn’t a performance—it’s a celebration. Forget the pressure to stage perfection for the algorithm. What matters is joy, connection, and the story that feels true to you.
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Blog Post by Jody Coon , Creative Director of Jody Q Weddings. Published December 19th 2025